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If a Man Wants You…

This is also one of those old emails I found while cleaning out my junk.  It says that Oprah said these but I’m not so sure so I just want to say these aren’t my words [in case I get accused of plagiarism, hehehe]. 🙂

I guess some of the things here are applicable to relationships and dating per se… not only to men…

“If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship
that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what
makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not
treating you as you deserve then heck no, you
can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you
along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.”
You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying
when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a
bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them
when he got them pregnant, why would he treat
you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it
against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change
comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important
than you are…
even if he has more education or in a better job. Do
not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man,
nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are!

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW
him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending…
compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships…
there is nothing cute about baggage… Deal with
your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE
you… a relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals… look for someone complimentary…
not supplementary.

Dating is fun… even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr.

Make him miss you sometimes… when a man
always knows where you are, and you’re always
readily available to him – he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother’s house.

Never co-sign for a man.”

All right, girl-friends.  I posted this for your benefits.  Use it right and use it well. 😉  Good luck in finally snagging the right man… 😀 The highlighted stuff are I think the ones that are most suitable for… you, and you, and you!  Hahaha!!! 😆

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  1. June 26, 2010 at 10:52 AM

    This is a good list. Thanks for sharing. Some of these things I realized too late, lol.

    • fancypants
      June 26, 2010 at 12:55 PM

      I’m only too glad to share it, to make more women aware of just how a man should treat us! 😆 I’m afraid I must say the same thing though, some of the stuff in this list were also late realizations for me. 🙂

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