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How to Survive a Break-Up

So you finally decided to call it quits, and although you know that there will be empty nights that you will have to face from now on, you are still not prepared for the deluge of memories that haunt you…

People have different ways of coping with a break-up.  Some take a vacation far away; others stay cooped up in their rooms for who-knows-how-long; and others just bawl like babies day in and day out.

Here are a few things that I have learned from people who are trying to get over a break-up:

1.  Keep all things tangible that will remind you of the person.  You have enough memories in your head to torture you, why add to the burden by looking at “love mementos” over and over again?!

2. Delete all messages…text, yms and emails.  These are further reminders of the person…again, things that you don’t need right now.

3. Stay away from people, places and things [in short, NOUNS, hahaha] that remind you of the person.  These include songs, movies, books, etc…

4. Think of one particular happy thought not related to the person in any way and conjure this up whenever memories of the person invade the privacy of your mind.

5. Finally, LIVE!  Get out and have fun!  Do fun things…shop like crazy, drink like crazy, smoke like crazy…

These are the five most essential things that people I have talked to say they do when they are trying to get over a break-up.

Methinks however, that you should do the exact opposite of all these things.  Keep looking at pictures of the two of you together, keep reading the mushy love lines, watch the same movies that you both loved, re-live the memories — good and bad –; cry your eyes out for a day or two; FEEL the heartache; feel the tightening of your chest, the weakness in your knees, the butterflies in your stomach whenever you are reminded of the person…

Do all these things until you become immune to them…until reading the love lines, watching the movies, and remembering your ex-partner no longer trigger such painful effects…

And then move on… pat yourself on the back for a job well done… and if you are the wronged party in the relationship… live with the thought that you have moved on successfully; while the other one will forever feel guilty with what he/she has done to you. 🙂

That alone is retribution enough!  Hahaha!!!! 😀

  1. Eliot
    February 24, 2010 at 6:35 AM

    I think you mean DON’T keep mementos haha

    • February 24, 2010 at 10:17 AM

      Hi Eliot! 🙂

      Actually, what I meant was keep them out of sight, hahaha! 😀

      Thanks for dropping by… 🙂

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