New Year, New Beginnings
So okay, 2010 hasn’t even warmed-up yet; and already, I find that couples who have been together for so long have separated only a few days after New Year’s Day celebrations.
I am not one to question the why’s and how’s of relationships; and in fact, I am a strong advocate of following one’s heart no matter what everybody else says. I have just seen too many failed relationship, marriages included unfortunately, all because of the stubbornness of one or both parties, wanting to stick it out because it was a decision they have made a long time ago.
I am also not one to press-on my beliefs to anyone so when things like separation and doomed relationships are presented to me, I give my two cents’ worth and then I keep quiet.
Anyhow, one couple I know who have been together for more than ten years finally decided to call it quits yesterday, Jan. 2. I say kudos to both of them! They can finally follow their hearts and reach far beyond what they thought they only deserved…giving themselves the chance to grow as individuals before getting into another relationship.
I say one needs to be alone first, to learn how to live on your own, to nurture your soul before you can truly get into a meaningful relationship.
I am not going to be a hypocrite and say that it’s not gonna hurt because it will hurt like hell. But part of growing up and truly learning about one’s self is facing various hurtful processes.
Of course you will miss the person because you have been together for so long…you might even regret parting ways but getting back into the relationship because of dependency is one sure-way to live a lifetime of regrets.
New Years are for new beginnings and if that means leaving behind everything and everyone that have stunted your personal growth over the years, then you are on the right track.
The couple were of course sad to part ways but they both realized that they couldn’t be together anymore for a myriad of reasons. They have a million reasons why they should stay together but the reasons for parting ways far outweigh the reasons for staying together…and those are personal growth and happiness.
The end of a relationship does not mean the end of the world. It means that you have learned what you value most and that you now know what exactly it is that you want.
Happy New Year and happy new beginnings. 😀